Hi Guys!! AH the holiday season is rapidly approaching and thanksgiving is on thursday and as a college student, thanksgiving is a dream come true, thank the lord it is only a few short days away! I am flying home tomorrow and I do not think I could be happier. I have sadly been swamped with homework and tests, yet again. If you are in high school and think you have it rough, enjoy it now, you will soon have essays on essays, and, spoiler alert: it is not fun. :) I always seem to be updating you on what I am watching or listening to, so to continue that trend I am now obsessing over Grey's Anatomy and am for whatever reason listening to Selena Gomez's new track on repeat. The name of the song is, the heart wants what it wants, don't let the cliché turn you off, it is good. I love the video, it is very raw and during it, she shows her real emotion and that is very rare to see in an artist, so it is cool to watch, if you have a chance you should go check it out.
I think everyone has a person that no matter what happens or how much time passes, you will always love them and want the best for them. To go more in depth, I have a few people I have had ridiculously unique relationships with, ones I do not think I can necessarily find again, but there is always one person that just hooks ya, atleast, that's how I see it. When things, as in relationships, or plans do not work out how I wanted, as you may already know, I believe it is for a reason. But, sometimes it is very hard to understand why things do not work out the way you wanted because they seemed like they would be perfect. No matter how much time passes, sometimes it is hard to get over a situation, for me, it takes me a very long time to mourn the loss of any type of relationship, depending on how much the person means to me. It takes a certain kind of person for me to open up and trust, but when I do, you will know I really care about you, especially if I make fun of you ;). It is okay to take some time and think about a situation, obviously you do not want to devote your whole life to analyzing it, but taking a step back and assessing what went wrong can be good, as long as it isn't obsessive. Sometimes I think I have gotten over a situation, and then suddenly realize I have actually taken 5 steps back, yay go me. It is very difficult because I want nothing more than to be content with the way things are, because I, nor anyone can change what has already happened, but it is very hard to not think about the "what ifs." Especially for people who are at a young age, like me, and haven't had as much experience with relationships, the first time you feel like you have met someone that you would do anything for, or want to spend all of your time with, is hard to lose, and you can feel like you will never feel that way again. Wanna hear a secret? I have heard that although you think you will never feel that way again, you will. It can take time, but it could be even better the next time. As my mom says, "you will break hearts and have your heart broken, but every time that happens you are one step closer to finding the real thing." It could be a romantic relationship, or it could be a best friend who you felt understood you better than anyone else. Losing someone who makes you feel unique, loved, and special is something I do not think I can ever explain fully, frankly it sucks. For me at least, I can know how better off I am, or how far I have bettered myself without the person, but it still will hurt no matter what I do. I do not know if the hurt will ever go away, but I can say it will not sting as much as time goes on. It becomes even more awful though when you wear "rose colored glasses." By this, I mean that as people, when we look back at our past and things that we miss, we do not view things as they were, we make them up to be better than they actually were. And, with that mind set, of course things are going to feel impossible to get over. Although life may not go the way you want, imagine things in your "ideal" way, and then think about your life now. What you would have not gained now? In my situation, I am happy things worked out the way they did, although sometimes I am wishing to get past memories to reoccur. I can say I miss the person more than words can describe and I will always love them, but they kinda suck if we are being real, and there's a reason they aren't in my life anymore. Since then, I have gained many people I care about and that I have an awesome time with. Think about it in your case, if you were still friends with that person, or with that person, would you be where you are now? Would you be the person you are today? I can answer for you. Probably not. I can not tell you which one is better, but from experience I think it is the one you were given. Things happen in mysterious ways and for reasons we may never know. You win some you lose some, and from experience, what you think are losses, usually turn out to be large wins in disguise.
Have a fantastic thanksgiving! Feel free to contact me anytime.
Taylor
Tuesday, November 25, 2014
Tuesday, November 11, 2014
Self Love is key
Hi everyone! I hope you have had a great couple of weeks and especially an awesome halloween! Tonight I am going to be talking about something that hits close to home for me and a lot of other people, especially girls. If you have any thoughts please feel free to comment or email me, (only nice or intellectual thought provoking comments are wanted. :-))
Body Image is "the way that someone perceives their body and assumes that others perceive them. This image is often affected by family, friends, social pressure and the media." As I started to research the topic I found a couple of disturbing statistics. "Approximately 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies and resort to dieting to achieve their ideal body shape. Unfortunately, only 5% of women naturally possess the body type often portrayed by Americans in the media. 58% of college-aged girls feel pressured to be a certain weight." After reading those statistics I felt sick. Being healthy is one thing, but girls should not feel the pressure to look and be a certain way. When their are arguments over body image, most will usually bring up how unrealistic expectations of how a woman should look are portrayed daily through social media. The amount of photo shop and airbrushing that goes into these photos of women on the covers of magazines is unreal. And, the sad thing is that there are a lot of girls who look at these magazines, and social media representations and then look at themselves and become dissatisfied. But, what those little girls don't know is that even the people featured in those photos can not achieve that level of flawlessness. In my opinion, to be beautiful you don't have to be as skinny as they come, but if you are that's okay too. To me as cheesy as this is confidence and happiness are key. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and everyone is going to think something different is beautiful, so why are we all striving to be the same? My point in bringing this topic up is to talk about how to feel good in you're own skin. If you think I have the answer to that I am going to inform you that I sadly don't. I wish I did, but I myself am still trying to find it. The only thing I know is that no matter how much weight I lost, or how much muscle I gained in the past, I still was not happy with my self. Working out and eating healthy does help you feel better and improves your physique, but it is not everything and I know for damn sure it does not solve all your problems like you think losing weight will do. Through my trials and errors of dealing with my poor body-image I now know that no matter how much the scale reads, how many compliments you receive, you do not feel any better until you accept yourself and love yourself. It comes from within. You can work out as much as you want and eat as well as you possibly can, and you can look like a damn princess and still not be happy. For me, I still have not processed that, and I definitely am still a work in progress, but I am trying. Instead of comparing my self to others without even realizing it, and standing in front of the mirror critiquing myself I am going to try, and have been trying to just not. I have been starting to workout more and get involved in more things that make me happy, and am hoping it will help. Also, I have noticed that some of the reason that boys and girls are both so self conscious is of what they expect the opposite sex to look like. Of course this is a huge generalization, but from articles by the name of "7 reasons you should date a girl with an eating disorder," and boys who girls look up to such as Nash Grier who say they love natural girls, and to not wear makeup but then proceed to say that peach fuzz and arm air are a big no, makes me realize why so many people are insecure at such an early age. Everyone expects something from everyone and it is setting society up in an unpleasant destructive way. We need to break the cycle. For more information please visit www.dosomething.org/facts/11-facts-about-body-image. All statistics were derived from dosomething.org
If you are struggling with an eating disorder, or feel like you are drowning in sadness over your body, I promise you are not alone. Here are a few things you can do: a hotline for all issues regarding body image:18443350872, call a parent or a friend, get educated and reach out for help, you can visit dosomething.org and they can help for free and confidentially.
Please feel free to email me anytime. I hope this helps.
Taylor
Body Image is "the way that someone perceives their body and assumes that others perceive them. This image is often affected by family, friends, social pressure and the media." As I started to research the topic I found a couple of disturbing statistics. "Approximately 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies and resort to dieting to achieve their ideal body shape. Unfortunately, only 5% of women naturally possess the body type often portrayed by Americans in the media. 58% of college-aged girls feel pressured to be a certain weight." After reading those statistics I felt sick. Being healthy is one thing, but girls should not feel the pressure to look and be a certain way. When their are arguments over body image, most will usually bring up how unrealistic expectations of how a woman should look are portrayed daily through social media. The amount of photo shop and airbrushing that goes into these photos of women on the covers of magazines is unreal. And, the sad thing is that there are a lot of girls who look at these magazines, and social media representations and then look at themselves and become dissatisfied. But, what those little girls don't know is that even the people featured in those photos can not achieve that level of flawlessness. In my opinion, to be beautiful you don't have to be as skinny as they come, but if you are that's okay too. To me as cheesy as this is confidence and happiness are key. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and everyone is going to think something different is beautiful, so why are we all striving to be the same? My point in bringing this topic up is to talk about how to feel good in you're own skin. If you think I have the answer to that I am going to inform you that I sadly don't. I wish I did, but I myself am still trying to find it. The only thing I know is that no matter how much weight I lost, or how much muscle I gained in the past, I still was not happy with my self. Working out and eating healthy does help you feel better and improves your physique, but it is not everything and I know for damn sure it does not solve all your problems like you think losing weight will do. Through my trials and errors of dealing with my poor body-image I now know that no matter how much the scale reads, how many compliments you receive, you do not feel any better until you accept yourself and love yourself. It comes from within. You can work out as much as you want and eat as well as you possibly can, and you can look like a damn princess and still not be happy. For me, I still have not processed that, and I definitely am still a work in progress, but I am trying. Instead of comparing my self to others without even realizing it, and standing in front of the mirror critiquing myself I am going to try, and have been trying to just not. I have been starting to workout more and get involved in more things that make me happy, and am hoping it will help. Also, I have noticed that some of the reason that boys and girls are both so self conscious is of what they expect the opposite sex to look like. Of course this is a huge generalization, but from articles by the name of "7 reasons you should date a girl with an eating disorder," and boys who girls look up to such as Nash Grier who say they love natural girls, and to not wear makeup but then proceed to say that peach fuzz and arm air are a big no, makes me realize why so many people are insecure at such an early age. Everyone expects something from everyone and it is setting society up in an unpleasant destructive way. We need to break the cycle. For more information please visit www.dosomething.org/facts/11-facts-about-body-image. All statistics were derived from dosomething.org
If you are struggling with an eating disorder, or feel like you are drowning in sadness over your body, I promise you are not alone. Here are a few things you can do: a hotline for all issues regarding body image:18443350872, call a parent or a friend, get educated and reach out for help, you can visit dosomething.org and they can help for free and confidentially.
Please feel free to email me anytime. I hope this helps.
Taylor
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